Every moment just is.

The hardships of others do not discredit our own.

Each person’s life is unique and therefore cannot be compared to another. Whilst from one perspective, the difficult experience may seem overwhelming, from another perspective, it’s minute. It is demeaning to assume that a difficult situation is burdensome when there isn’t a complete understanding of the circumstances that arose to get to that moment. Perhaps this particular moment is actually an achievement. The road to this moment was more difficult for the individual and to be able to stand in their situation is a blessing, for now at least. So, to compare one’s experience with another is to put a biased opinion on it. To assume that the other experience is a hardship may actually take the power away from that individual. One cannot ever truely understand what it’s like to live as another.

As for oneself, though there is a closer relationship to the circumstances that arose to get to that moment, still, comparison should not be present. This situation is not the same as the last situation, therefore cannot be compared. Apples and oranges.

Each moment should be experienced individually. This is what is meant by “the eternal now”.

Every moment just is.

By thinking about others, or ourselves, we are experienced the world through a lens. Realistically, there is no need for this lens, it is something we chose to do at some point, to provide structure to our experience of this life. We take our past experiences and apply them to the current moment to make analyses and create conclusions. Is this necessary? Who benefits?

Why are people so obsessed with being hard done by?

Why do people talk about their past pain and suffering as if it exists in the present?

It does not bring joy.

Each time a negative thought arises, or each time a comparative thought arises, match it with something positive about the here and now. Use the senses. I see… I smell… I hear… I taste… I feel…

Return to the present moment.

Be here now.