Crystals for Grief

Grief isn’t always about the loss of a person. We grieve the loss of a relationship, a job or sometimes a circumstance. Spending time in lockdowns and in restricted movement, being told we cannot work or see our family and friends has indeed brought up heavy feelings of isolation, tension and grief.

We are grieving for the freedoms we once had and are now sitting idly, awaiting direction for what comes next. However, there is always a choice. Though we must appreciate and allow all feelings to arise and move through us, we cannot get caught holding onto that which does not serve.

Using crystals help to speed up and allow smooth processing of emotions. Holding or wearing crystals during meditation, throughout the day or sleeping with them under your pillow all work towards your highest virtue.

Amethyst:

Amethyst is a protective stone. It guides you through the darkness and into the light. Warming, comforting and powerful, Amethyst gives you strength to get through each moment, lifting some of the weight you are bearing. Carrying Amethyst is likened to wearing a suit of armour, allowing you to fight, but ensuring your safety. Combining Amethyst with any stone will enhance its properties, it is an overall magical stone with a high spiritual vibration and should be a part of every collection.

Apache Tear:

Apache Tear originate from the Mesoamerican region. The legend tells the Apache Tribes men were captured and instead of surrendering, jumped off a cliff to their death. Upon hearing this news, the women of the tribe cried for their lost men, the intense pain in each tear drop, fell to the ground and formed into what is now Apache Tear. These stones absorb negative energy and hold strong grounding and protective energy. They act to surface and expel deep grief and mourning to allow forgiveness and calm the heart in times of sorrow. Be careful though, the emotions may appear unexpectedly and with intensity. Expect tears.

Smokey Quartz:

First and foremost, Smokey Quartz is grounding. For grief or for any time you feel ungrounded, unbalanced, flighty, or unstable, use Smokey Quartz to dissolve heavy emotions. This is another crystal that should be in every collection. Smokey Quartz relaxes the physical body and sends our energy back to the Earth through the base and earth chakras, planting us like trees. It is warm and comforting, de-stressing and untangling thoughts, slowing down the mind and strengthening the back. Smokey Quartz reminds us to leave behind what no longer serves, lifting depression and bringing us to the present moment.

I like to use dark coloured crystals (Smokey Quartz, Tourmaline, Onyx etc) for a short period of time when I am feeling most affected, and then carry lighter coloured crystals (especially blue) to assist with raising my energy.

Blue Lace Agate:

This crystal is soothing and provides a sense of tranquillity to navigate through repressed and suppressed emotions that block the throat chakra. Blue Lace helps to raise our vibration by stabilising erratic energy in a gentle and calming manner. This type of Agate has white lace-like lines (as is suggested in the name) which indicate the permeation of all planes of being, removing negativity and allowing space to encourage new perspectives and expressions. Looking at Blue Lace Agate is like looking into a clear blue sky on a beautiful day, it helps one to relax the shoulders and neck, calm the nervous system and ease the feeling of suffocation.

Celestite:

Celestite is an angelic stone, connected to the Angels and higher realms. It sooths the spirit and eases tension of the mind and body. It has a subtle buzzing vibration that is felt from the base to the crown charka which it uses to heal the aura and relax the muscles. It opens the third eye chakra to allow new insights into old situations, revealing truths and removing hindrances. Further, it connects one to the Divine and universal energies, dissolving pain and letting love in.

Lepidolite:

Lepidolite is a stone of transition. It reminds you of the good memories and is an anchor for you whilst you enjoy the past without feeling guilty for reminiscing or being happy when something tragic has occurred. As a purple stone, it is attuned to the higher spirit, opening the heart, throat, third eye and crown chakras, acting only for the highest good. It helps to guide you through past thoughts, progressing you into the future by enhancing analytical thought, focusing on what’s important and bringing deep emotional healing.

For me, it helps hold the person in their physical form as they stood in front of me, on those days when nothing special occurred, but were so special.